Should couples share every password?

No — personal account passwords should stay under individual control, and only shared logins like internet, utilities, and subscriptions belong in a joint vault. Sharing everything actually makes it harder to figure out responsibility when something goes wrong.

What happens if my spouse is suddenly hospitalized or passes away — how do I access their accounts?

You'll need official mechanisms the account owner set up in advance, like Bitwarden Emergency Access or Apple's Legacy Contact. Without that groundwork laid ahead of time, gaining access after the fact can become extremely difficult.

Where should we start when adopting a password manager as a couple?

Pick a handful of clearly joint accounts — utilities, Wi-Fi, subscriptions — and try it for a month first. Trying to migrate everything at once tends to dump all the management work on one person and the whole effort fizzles out.

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Marriage Doesn't Mean Shared Passwords: A Couple's Guide to Digital Security

Keep personal accounts separate, and design emergency access for shared ones before you need it.

It's tempting to think marriage means merging email and messenger passwords, but the safer approach runs the other way. Keep personal accounts under individual control, and separate out only the logins you genuinely share — internet, utilities, subscriptions — into a dedicated joint vault. Layer on recovery tools for the unexpected — a lost phone, a long hospital stay, a death — and you cut the risky habit of writing passwords on sticky notes or texting them to each other.

The ten tools below fall into three groups: tools for safely sharing joint logins, tools for securing logins themselves, and access mechanisms that only activate in an emergency. Rather than adopting all ten at once, pick one or two that fit your situation, try them for a month, and expand from there.

Bitwarden Organizations

Personal vaults stay untouched while only shared logins — utilities, the home router, subscriptions — move into an organization collection, which cleanly separates private and joint territory. Compare the free two-person plan against paid family tiers first, and understand how ownership shifts through the invite-and-accept process. Test it with a handful of accounts for a month before migrating everything.

1Password Families

Each family member gets both a private vault and a shared one, making it easy to keep not just logins but documents and recovery info properly organized. It's a paid service, though, and certain recovery powers concentrate with the family organizer, so check what happens if the subscription lapses or the organizer changes. Keep invite scope and edit permissions to the minimum needed.

Google Password Manager

Built into Chrome and Android with no extra install, it's the easiest way for each of you to audit and auto-fill your own passwords. Its joint-sharing features are limited, though, so it works better as a way to harden your individual accounts than as a full solution for shared logins. Never leave a signed-in session on a shared computer.

Marriage Doesn't Mean Shared Passwords: A Couple's Guide to Digital Security

Bitwarden Organizations

1Password Families

Google Password Manager

Apple Passwords app

Microsoft Authenticator

Google Authenticator

Bitwarden Emergency Access

Apple Legacy Contact

Google Inactive Account Manager

Joint account inventory document

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